Susan Morgan Taylor, MA
Somatic Sex Therapist and Relationship Coach  for Couples

Sexless Marriages and Why
I'm Afraid to Admit This...

I am afraid to admit this but….

…I feel it is important for me to get a little bit vulnerable with you.

You see, the topic of intimacy is a scary one.

And I know if you are facing challenges in your intimate relationship, you are probably scared and confused just as I was many years ago.

You see, I spent ten years in a sexless marriage. I was miserable, depressed, and yet I felt totally stuck.

I longed for something more. I longed for love, for connection.

I longed just to get on the same page with my partner and to feel the love and connection I once felt.

Problem was, I had no idea how to do this.

I didn’t know where to go for help.

And even if I had known….I would have been too ashamed to take any action.

You see, I put on a front to the world that everything was Ok.

I pretended to be happy.

I pretended everything was “fine”.

I wanted to believe this lie. And more than anything else I wanted others to believe this lie too.

But secretly I was envious of my friends, Shelby and Chris, who seemed to have a happier lifestyle and what appeared to be a much more fulfilling and loving relationship.

I just couldn’t admit to myself that something was wrong. Seriously wrong.

I did not want to face what it might mean to admit to myself that I was not attracted to my partner. And that I had not felt attracted to him in many years…..

I felt so ashamed of this.

And OMG how I did not want to face the reality of what admitting this truth might bring—the dreaded “D” word.

An outcome that would make me a disgrace and an outcast to my friends and family.

But sadly, that’s where I ended up.

Yup. Divorced.

Alone.

Scared.

And starting over in my mid-thirties with two small children in tow.

That whole process sucked.

And all I was left with at the end of it was 22k of credit card debt and a 20k attorney bill.

I wouldn’t wish that outcome for anyone…..

And here I am over fifteen years later, a somatic sex therapist and relationship coach helping other couples avoid this same outcome.

Kind of ironic isn’t it? LOL.

Now, you may think that because I had a sexless marriage that ended in divorce that I am not qualified to lead other couples into deeper connection and intimate harmony.

Some may assume that I would try to convince couples to separate or divorce instead of discovering the root causes of and how to resolve the issue.

Nothing could be further from the truth.

In fact, it is BECAUSE my marriage failed that I have an intimate understanding of the VERY REAL consequences of an intimacy challenged relationship.

It is BECAUSE I lived the outcome of this inconvenient truth and took measures to ensure I never recreated it again.

The failing of my marriage catalyzed me to embark on the study of my own sexuality.

It forced me out of denial and into a passion for understanding and resolving the relational dynamics that lead to this rampant lack of connection, the impacts of mismatched desire, and the ensuing emotional disconnection that comes from lack of intimacy.

As a result of this sexless and failed marriage, I became a sex therapist and specialist in helping couples overcome the same challenges I faced.

• Because I believe that our intimate relationships are the most direct path to connection and love.
• Because I believe we can change the world by how we have sx and make love.
• Because the world needs more love and connection and when we learn how to consciously create that in our most intimate relationship, the world changes as a result.

THIS is why I am telling you this story.

Because I don’t want you to feel like you are all alone.

I want to help erase the shame and denial that you may be feeling when it comes to the intimacy challenges you’re facing.

I want to take away the fear that you have to face the same outcome I did ---because you DON’T ---and there IS a pathway forward where you can have what you want and stay together and build a satisfying intimate life for your future.

This is why I am so passionate about helping couples.

And……THIS is why I created the Pleasure Keys Retreats.

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Our intimate relationships hold the potential to be the source of our greatest joy and love, and for the greatest healing for the world. When things are working well here, everything else works and the world is a happier place for us all.

Let’s make 2025 an incredible year and let’s do it together.

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